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Yes, you can find peace after divorce.
It’s no big secret that a breakup results in a division of friends along with the furniture. But what happens with your Facebook “friends” post-separation? Is “unfriending” your ex and his or her friends the right thing to do after the end of a relationship goes public?
Displaying emotions during mediation is not wrong or harmful. In fact, I encourage clients to present as “real” people and not be afraid to show their genuine feelings. What I don’t want to happen is for them to allow their emotions to dictate their actions and words.
Who is to say that Johnny would do better on a week on/week off schedule or two weeks with Mom and two weeks with Dad? They’re both equal timeshares, after all. What is better, two one-week vacations or one two-week vacation? Should the kids be exchanged on Christmas Eve at midnight or 10 am Christmas Day? I could go on and on naming example after example about how reasonable minds can differ.
So what exactly is a successful divorce? It’s certainly not getting everything you want, because that simply doesn’t happen. After all, you never wanted to divide the pots and pans or move out of your home.
We all feel frustrated and far less than brilliant when we don’t know how to handle difficult conversations with grace, confidence and ease. Whether you’re working with a difficult person, talking to your hormonally-charged teenager about missing curfew or being afraid to ask for what you need in your romantic relationship, we could all use help being able to speak our truth, even when it might not be easy for someone else to hear. We all avoid tough conversations at times. Whether it’s because we hate conflict, are afraid of losing, or just don’t want to speak to the other person period, it’s a drain of energy and time allowing that conversation to fester.
Let’s start with two basic premises: 1) You can’t change what you don’t own; and 2) Chances are you own every result. So when you make excuses and blame outside forces that are beyond your control, you get stuck with the same bad results because of the problems you refuse to own.
Most Baby Boomers contemplating divorce have different needs simply because of where they are at in life. Since the majority of the income-generating years are behind them, special attention must be paid to future income, health insurance and spousal support.
Bifurcation of marital status—to separate (bifurcate) the issue of the parties’ marital status from the other issues in the divorce itself. In other words, the parties can divorce and return to the status of single persons prior to resolving the remaining divorce issues, including property division, support, custody, and visitation.